This Sunday is Mother’s Day in Canada. It always falls on the second Sunday in the month of May, so this year, that will be May 12.
Celebrations and the origins of Mother’s Day can be traced back to ancient civilizations, where mother goddesses were worshipped in springtime festivals.
But Mother’s Day in Canada was officially recognized by the Canadian government in 1914, following the United States’ declaration of the holiday.
It began with an American woman named Anna Jarvis who wanted a day to honour the sacrifices mothers make for their children. The idea quickly gained traction.
I am very lucky to have a great mom and also very lucky to have a great mother-in-law.
The relationship between a daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law can be tricky. I often see on social media women my age complaining about their mothers-in-law. Common complaints include criticism and unsolicited advice, especially on parenting.
Others complain that their mothers-in-law overstep their boundaries, think their son’s partner isn’t good enough for him, and create crazy expectations around family holidays. I’ve even heard of in-laws ruining a marriage.
Mine couldn’t be farther from that and I am so grateful. I actually fell in love with her before I fell in love with my husband. I met her first when I moved to Smithers and she took me under her wing, introduced me to people, showed me around town, and was so kind to me.
Shortly, after I met her, she introduced me to her son. Maybe she had ulterior motives, but the handy part is I never had to have that awkward ‘meeting of the parents’ moment.
Since then, I have grown to appreciate and love her even more. She makes me soup when I am sick, passes down recipes, and mends my clothes. The best part is she takes care of my children when I need her to and loves them like her own.
My mother lives far away and raising babies without your mom is tough. My mother-in-law had to do that and I think she gets it. She understands the need for help and steps up.
Having someone like her in my corner is very valuable. She is a very special and kind person. I truly wish everyone could have a mother-in-law like her.
Having a good relationship with the in-laws takes work, patience, creating boundaries and a ton of communication. But it is worth it. I know it isn’t always possible but if the door is open, it’s worth the time and energy.
Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers, including those who are yearning to be a mom, step-moms, foster moms, those who have lost a child and anyone in a maternal role.
And a big Happy Mother’s Day to my mother-in-law. Thank you for all you do.